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Read to heal from a heartache

Reading on Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day or Lover’s Day!

Many novels speak about love, passion … and about all possible sufferings that are linked to love.

Which are the best love stories ?

The best novel about love is the one that meets our romantic need of the moment. A story evoking the first emotions during the college years will become the most beautiful love story of teenagers. Later in life, the novel about marital affairs will be more in line with the needs of the reader who wants to find an echo of his own experiences. Still later on, the loss of the loved one will find some consolation in the stories of the protagonists confronted with the mourning of the soul mate.

So, it is only you, reader, who has all the keys in hand to decide which is your best romance, the one which has marked your sentimental life by bringing you the necessary comfort or by guiding you in your own sentimental life.

Love stories that go beyond personal experiences

It is true that some love stories have marked literature and go on charming readers. These tales full of romanticism and heroic adventures do not really resemble the everyday life of the one who is seaching for love. However, the reader will be able to find an echo of his own feelings, and even a welcome escape to celebrate love in good company.

Among the most beautiful love stories in literature, there are for example the following best-sellers :

“Romeo and Juliet” by William Shakespeare

It is the ideal love story that everyone has heard about at school, or seen performed in the theater or at the cinema . But how many of you have read Shakespeare’s novel written in the 16th century. Being inspired by tragic love stories dating back to ancient times, as well as by an Italian tale, Shakespeare wrote this dramatic masterpiece whose main theme is love.

“Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs;
Being purg’d, a fire sparkling in lovers’ eyes;
Being vex’d, a sea nourish’d with lovers’ tears;
What is it else? A madness most discreet,
A choking gall, and a preserving sweet”

“Pride and Prejudice” and

“Sense and Sensibility” by Jane Austen

Jane Austen is an English woman of letters (1775-1817) who has probably suffered from a sentimental disappointment. Thanks to an exchange of letters with her sister Cassandra, it is to be supposed that Jane was in love with a young Irishman called Tom Lefroy. During the two years when they came to meet each other, Jane Austen wrote the two novels mentioned here. After Tom Lefroy’s wedding with another woman, Jane Austen has stopped writing for a decade. Her love disappointment may be the reason thereof.

The movie “Becoming Jane” (2007) by Julian Jarrold was inspired by this love story.

“I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading! How much sooner one tires of any thing than of a book! — When I have a house of my own, I shall be miserable if I have not an excellent library.” (Pride and Prejudice)

“I could not be happy with a man whose taste did not in every point coincide with my own. He must enter in all my feelings; the same books, the same music must charm us both.” (Sense and Sensibility)

 “Jane Eyre” by Charlotte Brontë and

 “Wuthering Heights” by Emily Brontë

The Brontë family has had dark and painful moments, but the written works of the son and daughters have survived through the centuries. The novels of the Brontë sisters are world famous and much appreciated. The omnipresence of nature in all its states reflects the feelings, passions and torments of the characters in their respective novels, as well as those that undoubtedly shaked the life of the Brontë sisters.

“If all else perished, and he remained, I should still continue to be; and if all else remained, and he were annihilated, the universe would turn to a mighty stranger.” (Wuthering Heights)

“Gone with the wind” by Margaret Mitchell

The plot of this love story takes place during the Civil War in America (1861-1865). The protagonists love each other at the wrong time, being mistaken by their own feelings and those of others.

“She saw in his eyes defeat of her wild dreams, her mad desires.” 

 “Mood Indigo” by Boris Vian

Published in 1947, Boris Vian’s novel looks like both an enchanting tale and a tremendous story of dreamlike love in which illness and death break in.

“We remember the good times much better; so what are the bad for? “

“One person is missing and the whole place is deserted” said Lamartine

Certainly, but Paul Desalmand also said “There are really only two things that can change a human being: a great love or reading a big book.” So when love is missing, or when Cupid is playing ugly tricks with us, then let’s quickly find the good novel that will reconcile us with life !

Which novel to choose to relieve one’s heartache ?

« Lire pour guérir d’une peine de coeur » (=Read to heal a heartache)

by Nathalie Cailteux

My reader’s memory has helped me to realize this French compilation which gathers 24 proposals of novels likely to cheer up the ones who suffer from heartache. If it is possible to categorize love pains, this book lists novels according to various sentimental sorrows (passionate and / or platonic sorrow during youth, crumbling of love within the couple, sentimental rupture, man heartache, suffering after a mourning …). Far away from me the ambition to cover the whole field of sentimental emotions, but I really hope that these proposed novels will help the greatest number of you. You will note that the mentioned books belong to a variety of genres (romantic frescoes, humorous stories, classic works, modern novels, including a novel being part of the Oulipo movement); my goal was to target as many literary affinities as possible.

Of course your comments on Amazon or on this blog will be much appreciated.

Happy reading to all ! and Happy Valentine’s Day !

 

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READ TO HEAL

Reading novels will improve your ability to overcome personal difficulties

READ TO HEAL

You are alone, you are desperate and you seek comfort.

Reading the appropriate novel at the right moment may give you the required solace.

The advantages of reading

You take some time for yourself in an elsewhere which provides a needed respite.

Reading relieves the tension of the day and helps sleep.

No side effect : contrary to medicinal products or alcohol to help sleep, reading will not make you suffer from any secondary effect, from allergy or drowsiness (except if you read all the night long). You will not be drunk or ill.

Feeling of loneliness will disappear : while reading a story, you personally enter into the private life of the writer or of his characters. As a reader, you will be the privileged witness of what is happening in the heart and mind of other people. You will be considered as a real friend who is entitled to enter into the confidence.

Your own emotions and problems are shared by others : while reading a story, you understand that you are not an alien and that other people have experienced similar situations and encountered similar emotions while facing difficulties. How the characters of the story overcome these issues may provide you for solutions to your own problems.

Reading is not watching television since reading calls upon imagination.  Without readers, words on a page are neither coloured nor performing. Only you, the reader, can give them life and sense. Without readers, a novel has no sense. So dear reader, you have to work for charging a story with full colours of emotions. Being a reader is really an active approach.

Reading arouses curiosity and reflection, which may give rise to action in real life. While reading a novel, a depressed and reclusive person might get out from an internal retriet situation. Sometimes support from close people is not listened while the words of a books are saving. Quite curiously it is easier to agree with a book than a caring person.

Reading has a liberating effect – called catharsis – that allows long-pent-up emotions to emerge without suffering the trauma of the causes. Reading may relieve long-repressed pains which might heal heart and body.

 

Which novels to read ?

Generally speaking, each good written novel might heal a reader depending on the reader himself.

Are you a great reader or someone who occasionally reads from time to time ? Do you prefer romantic novel ? thrillers ? comic books ? classic novels ? coaching novels?…

What are you precisely searching in the novel you want to read now ?  Escape from everyday life ? Help ? Emotions sharing ? …

What are your difficulties at the moment ? Loneliness ? Family problems ? Exclusion ? Injustice ? Broken heart ?

A response to each of these questions gives me assistance to help you find the right novel.

Please contact me for some advice by clicking HERE.

 

Aim of the blog READ TO HEAL ?

I want to give you some advice and guide you through the mass of books published each year in order to find the best books to read to heal.

In this blog you will be able to find some novels for a category of listed problems, namely :

 

Good to know

This blog will be updated once a month. If you want to give some advice regarding a novel which you feel could help other people, please let me know and I might publish a post for this novel.

 

 

 

 

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My first post on BIBLIOCOACHING

Nina Sankovitch Tolstoy and the Purple Chair - My Year of Magical Reading

This is my first post and I am proud to present you the novel of Nina Sankovitch

 “TOLSTOY and the PURPLE CHAIR – My Year of Magical Reading » (Harper, 2011)

Overcome by sadness after the death of her older sister, Nina Sankovitch decides to give herself the means to get by. She will take up a challenge that is particularly close to her heart and that should help her to mourn: for a year, she will read a book a day and will write about it on her blog every time.

In this eloquent and tender novel, the author evokes through her readings her relationship with her family, her past and of course her deceased sister.

The novels she reads appear as the mirror of her own emotions and make her think about the true meaning and becoming of life. The year of reading becomes for her a real year of therapy, the kind of therapy that I am fond of and that I also advise you.

If I had to put forward a novel to praise the bibliotherapy, it is undoubtedly this one that I would choose!

The quote of a journalist from The Oprach Magazine mentions on the cover of the novel “Anyone who has ever sought refuge in literature will identify with Tolystoy and the Purple Chair

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